Dr. Kevin Polk

Noticing Hooks

Have you every had one of those times when you got hooked? Like when someone cuts you off in traffic. Maybe someone cut in front of you at the fast check-out line. Or maybe you stood in line for a long time, and then the person pays in pennies, or takes forever to write a check. Maybe your boss chews you out.

Maybe you see are really attractive person, a beautiful sunset, or a great song.

When doing ‘the matrix’ we call these events “hooks.”

Sometimes the hook hangs in there for several minutes, hours or even days. Heck, I still get hooked when I think about how I was wrongly accused and then punished by my kindergarten teacher.

If you are like most people, there are plenty of hooks in your life. A great ‘Noticing’ exercise is to notice when you get hooked, and then notice what you do next.

Most people notice the tension of the hook (a bit above the “me noticing” circle). Some notice the hook more in the mental realm (a bit below the ‘me noticing’ circle). Either way it’s a hook. Notice the hook and what you do next.

The more hooks you catch, the more you notice.

Be Well,

Kevin

Kevin L. Polk, Ph.D.
ACT Training and Consulting

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In my previous post several people back channeled me that they were surprised to see Psychological Flexibility at the center of both the Hexaflex and the Matrix. As I noted in the previous post, all things ACT are targeted at Psychological Flexibility. The paper and pencil assessment based on ACT, called the Acceptance and Action Questionnaire (AAQ) measures Psychological Flexibility.

This may come as a surprise to some who are used to hearing ACT for Depression, ACT for Anxiety, etc. The actual wording, from a functional contextual point of view, is Psychological Flexibility with Depression, Psychological Flexibility with Anxiety, etc.

What is psychological flexibility?

ACT is based on Relational Frame Theory (RFT), a theory of human language and cognition, and ‘cognition’ is essentially language turned inward. Language probably evolved for social reasons: me talking to you. However, language has obviously gone inward and humans now have a  ‘me to me’ language called cognition. We think of the past, the future and the present and have feelings that are related to all of those thoughts. We also do lots of problem solving “in our heads,” from simple arithmetic to inventing spaceships. It’s easy for all of us to get stuck in our heads and not paying attention to the physical world in the present moment. Some folks are more stuck “in their mind” than others, but the basic process of influencing others toward psychological flexibility is the same for all.

The trick is to be in our heads when needed AND paying attention to the physical world when needed, and the ability to effectively shift from one to the other (or do both at once) is called Psychological Flexibility. Steve Haye’s popular book is called Get Out of Your Mind and into Your Life.

Both the Matrix and Hexaflex diagrams give a visual representation of this “get out of your mind” process.  The lower parts are ‘mindy’ stuff and the upper are sensory stuff. If you stare at the lower part of the diagram you miss the upper part. The opposite is also true, but there are not many people who report having a problem with too much contact with the physical present moment.

Be Well,

Kevin

Kevin L. Polk, Ph.D.
Training individuals and groups

Psychological Flexibility Book: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004M8S4Z4
Web:  http://www.drkevinpolk.com
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